What happened to authenticity? Where did it go? Why did it stop? Well sad to say my kind soul, people are becoming more narcissistic and selfish. It seems to be such a burden to do any random act of kindness these days. People want kindness given to them, newsflash, it is a two-way street. You can’t expect to receive when you yourself do not give.
It seems that during these times if you want a random or even an act of kindness you need to voice it to someone or do it yourself and that doesn’t always feel right or fulfill the satisfaction. Trust me I’ve done it. We are called to serve others; that is what true love and authenticity is. I am constantly asking myself, what is a friend, because when it comes down to it, a friend these days is someone who you meet at a party, taking shots of the same cheap alcohol in the bathroom, with the same top on and taking selfless together. OMG BFF’S. Just stop. That breaks my heart to hear and turns my stomach into knots. You want to start off a friendship with a fuzzy mind, ok! But when you’re looking for authenticity in that friendship, it will be on the low side of the spectrum, just going to be honest. When starting anything off not on a strong foundation, the walls will come down at any given time.
So I ask, why is it such a burden to do something nice for someone, to go out of your way to help someone, when in reality doing that for somebody could make their day, heck their week and you’ll feel great about having done that. Relationships and friendships are always and will continue to be a two-way street. You each need to put 100% in, or slowly the tight close friendship you thought you had will slowly deteriorate. Someone’s expectations will start to not get met and the other person starts to become lazy. True authenticity is not about how much you talk or when to know to say it, it is all about when to take action. The saying; actions do speak louder than words is cliché only because it is true. To want a friend, to want authenticity, you need to be a friend and be authentic.
One other question comes to my mind; what if they don’t know how to be a friend or be authentic because they were never shown that. You’re the answer to that question. Not the answer you were looking for or wanting, huh?
If you’re looking for an authentic friend or relationship, you have a view on what that is, so YOU show them what you know. Yes, it may not fun always initiating everything but doing that with a servant’s and or generous heart, you will have the best reward in the end from the Heavenly Father Himself. He sees everything and knows everything, so you may not receive what you want from others right now but it will happen, maybe not in your timing, eventually it will happen. Keep on serving and keep on praying for authenticity from others and before you know it, people could be serving you when you least expect it (:
Stay strong my beautiful generous heart filled friend.